“Why me!?” This is an often-uttered comment when people find themselves in difficult or broken relationships. The truth of the matter is, we often are the authors or significantly contribute to the problems in our lives and this also holds true in the condition of our relationships with the people in our lives. The words we speak and how they are delivered are often the source of broken relationships.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” (Pro 18:21)
When we use certain words, they can bring death or life to a relationship and we “shall eat the fruit” our conversations produce.
Hurtful words and actions, when directed to or coming from people we trust, are difficult to comprehend and affect us in many different ways. David, King of Israel, cried out to God for help because of what was being said by others about him. The information that was being rumored by his enemies was, “When shall he die, and his name perish?” (Psa 41:5)
If the attacks by his enemies were not enough punishment, David told God:
“Yea, mine own familiar friend, in whom I trusted, which did eat of my bread, hath lifted up his heel against me. (Psa 41:9)
David’s spirit was wounded and his heart was broken by the words spoken by a faithful friend.
Are you suffering a broken heart or a wounded spirit because of a relationship in your life? If so what can or should you do? Like King David, our first response should be a conversation with God to find comfort and strength to have victory in this situation.
If you have been wounded, God said:
“He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.” (Psa 147:3)
God is the great physician who is able to heal the body and the soul when His children call on Him. Calling on God’s help to understand His plan for what has happened in your life will allow your wounded heart to start on the journey of being healed.
When relationships are damaged, repairing the damage is not often the first response. Rather, we attack the ones who have wounded us or defend ourselves when we have wounded others with our words and actions.
When we are wounded or have wounded others, we must remember who the real enemy is. Satan is the enemy of God’s people and is the source of every attack regardless of the source it comes from. The struggle is real and so is our enemy Satan.
We recognize, as followers of Jesus, we are engaged in a spiritual warfare that is often waged in the physical world and Satan will use our words and words of others to overthrow the children of God. Satan is described by the word of God as a “…roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour,” and reminds God’s people to, “Be sober, be vigilant” (1 Pe 5:8)
When you are in a broken relationship, remember who the enemy is and wage the battle against him and not the people God has placed in your life. If you have offended, don’t eat the fruit of your words. Find a way to rebuild what you have broken. If you consider yourself as the wounded remember the words spoken by Jesus:
“For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” (Mat 6:14-15)
One last word of encouragement from the Word of God:
“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” (Rom 12:18)
You often hold the power to be at peace with the people God has placed in your life.
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